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Buddhist take on parents staying together for the children?

How would one go about figuring out if it is wise to stay together for the sake of the children or if it is time to split up? What would be the guiding principles for figuring this out based on ...
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A path to another university outside of Buddhism

This post is a revision of Buddhism Or Christ? which already closed. I posted that Buddhism or Christ? question on a Christian forum too, and after quite a response from them, I felt I have some clues....
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“grasping a sign”, “fixed view”, and suffering

I heard that "grasping a sign" is considered a bad thing in Buddhism. Why is that so and what does that refer to? We know that "attachment to views" is a bad thing too. Are these related? (signs and ...
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How does one decide whether one lives a lay married life or a celibate life?

A bit of background. In my mid-20s, I spent a lot of time (cumulative 1 year) in different monasteries in Thailand, Myanmar and Nepal. I understand experientially the importance of consistent and ...
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Buddhism broke up my marriage

The title is provocative but sums up my problem: when I am immersed in Buddhist thought, I can no longer love my wife. Buddhism clearly contradicts romantic love. It tolerates it up to a certain ...
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How to find an appropriate sex partner for a sakadagami?

Is it true that sakadagami can have sex that is pure so between a wife and husband. how can one gain the attention of a wise man who intends to marry and upholds The Way of Noble Ones.
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How to decrease crave in daily-life?

In theory, many ways of meditation have been given to stop cravings and aversion. What about practical life? During day to day life, it has often been seen and experienced as well that, "we tend to ...
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When is it love? When is it attachment?

I have this misunderstanding about love and attachment as they relate to one another. It's hard to put in words, so I'll try with some examples first. My understanding is that love is something you ...
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How buddhists see/deal with Gaslighting?

I've had my share of gaslighting and have given it as well. To me there's this sort of limbo situation, where the undefinition is the abuse, where a person has the underlying feeling that something is ...
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Romantic love and Buddhism

What do you think of this article about romantic love? I am skeptical about his understanding of upeksha. As I understand it, romantic love does not really exist in Buddhism because the targeted love ...
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Where does choice enter into Buddhist practice?

I am curious about what, if anything, gets said, especially those trained a buddhist background. Personally and currently, I am having the understanding that the ability to say 'no' to the influence ...
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What is the difference between love and infatuation?

What is the difference between the two or are they the same?
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How do you talk to someone whose loved one is dying?

What can you say to someone whose loved one (e.g. spouse or parent) is dying? Assume if you can that in the West, e.g. Europe and America, although people (strangers) might have heard the first thing ...
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What could go wrong if one misconstrue Buddhism with nihilism?

I see that Buddhism is absolutely not nihilism, but I wonder what could go wrong if one misconstrue one with another. This is especially true with people with psychological issues, because they have ...
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Ignoring Someone as Wrongful Speech

I am in an odd situation. Someone I know, who was my friend, now seems to have developped feelings towards me. I wish to give her space, but we are in contact electronically and text. She is extremely ...

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