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Do buddhists fall in love?

I'm new to the concept of Buddhism, and am failing to understand perhaps something very basic. I understand that one is not expected to hold anything close or dear as it is impermanent and could ...
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Buddhism broke up my marriage

The title is provocative but sums up my problem: when I am immersed in Buddhist thought, I can no longer love my wife. Buddhism clearly contradicts romantic love. It tolerates it up to a certain ...
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Which is the Buddhist holy book? Where can it be read?

Is there a holy book for buddhists as the Bible is for Jews and Christians and Quran for Muslims? Is that the Tipitaka? A book where you can find all the teachings of Buddhism, and how to behave, ...
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Doubts about Karma and/or Rebirth

I have been a staunch follower of the Buddha's words for the past 1.5 years. I do believe in the Buddha in so far as the Denial of God, Creationism, Destiny is concerned but considering the events in ...
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Can a Buddhist own and run a billion dollar business?

China, Japan, Korea, etc. have so many companies and Buddhism is widespread in those areas. My question is: can a Buddhist make the aim of his life to run a billion dollar business?
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Does the Buddha like dogs?

I am not a buddhist but I have a friend who is. He dislikes dogs and I have questioned him as to whether he is a true Buddhist. I believe that the Buddha is peaceful and nature loving, and so would ...
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6answers
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How can I remove my desire for a relationship/girlfriend?

For at least half of my life I've had an extremely strong desire to be in a relationship/have a girlfriend and though I've tried, I've been unsuccessful and this has brought me tremendous suffering to ...
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Does being in a commited married life make it impossible to attain Nirvana? If not, how can one progress towards Nirvana?

Married life is a form of attachment. If one is in a commited relationship he/she is bound to have a multitude of attachments like a wife, children, personal belongings, wealth etc. But Buddha has ...
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8answers
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How can I forget my old girlfriend?

Hello to all of you and thank you for your time in answering the questions here. I have a big problem with my feelings. I have a huge emotional lack, which means I've never moved on with my old ...
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6answers
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My interests have changed. I wonder how to keep my previous life?

Lately, I have experienced a great breakthrough in my meditation. Being able to keep equanimous in front of deep sankharas I couldn't deal with before. My heart and mind are filled with happiness and ...
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6answers
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How do you have a relationship

Buddhism has made me realise that everything is impermanent and undergoing the process of destruction including intimate relationships however if I know this then why is it still so painful when it ...
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Why I'm feeling hopeless about life?

I'm so sorry. When I born as layman ; I tried to have loving life but it always come with big deal. She leave me undone and she wanted I must change my religion with her (muslim) to get married. I ...
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Dealing with Lust

I am wondering about the nature of lust and its remedies. I know Buddhism posits that lust depends on the sense organs, and contact with an object. Thus, I've read it promotes decreasing this contact ...
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4answers
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Loneliness: Rhinoceros-Horn Sutta from a Lay person's perspective

How can a lay person benefit from this beautiful sutta? It is about being reclusive as a key for good insight and enlightenment. Does this sutta apply for short period of loneliness like Retreats? Or ...
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4answers
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Can Buddhist marry non Buddhist?

I have relationship with non Buddhist, and we both thinking seriously about marriage. My family could not accept him because he is not Buddhist. But as I learned so far , Buddhism teach us to love and ...
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Pro's and cons of Buddhist books

What would a perfect book about Buddhism look like? Between translations of ancient texts... most of which are deep but rather obscure... and modern books by Theravada, Zen, and Vajrayana teachers... ...
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Do Buddhists need affection, physical touch or intimacy?

I am interested in learning about Buddhism, and there are a lot of questions. I wonder (since it seems to me Buddhists are quite independent, and they don't attach that much to people or things) what ...
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5answers
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How do you talk to someone whose loved one is dying?

What can you say to someone whose loved one (e.g. spouse or parent) is dying? Assume if you can that in the West, e.g. Europe and America, although people (strangers) might have heard the first thing ...
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List of book recommendations

For the reasons explained here, can you recommend one or more books about Buddhism? I suggest a format like, Title of Book by Name of Author A summary of what's in the book, recommended for ...
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6answers
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How to have a relationship

Every intimate relationship I have ever had has ended in a lot of pain and grief. The last one lasted for 17 years but eventually broke down. That was a year ago and the pain is still very raw at ...
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5answers
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How does one decide whether one lives a lay married life or a celibate life?

A bit of background. In my mid-20s, I spent a lot of time (cumulative 1 year) in different monasteries in Thailand, Myanmar and Nepal. I understand experientially the importance of consistent and ...
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4answers
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Sex Before Marriage

I met this wonderful girl sometime back and we had a great thing going. We understood each other very well and have lived in great pleasure and happiness. Initially we started dating. after sometime ...
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3answers
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How Does Buddhism Handle Internal Conflict

Few years ago, family put matrimonial ad in newspaper in India. We thought we selected nice person, but turns out he was abusive, unfaithful, and only wanted green card. Worse, he made me have ...
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2answers
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What is Buddhist law of marriage ? Is there any?

Should both partners be Buddhist in a marriage? If they want get a love marriage can they still get married if one of the partners is not Buddhist. What is the law in Buddhism about marriage?
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When is it love? When is it attachment?

I have this misunderstanding about love and attachment as they relate to one another. It's hard to put in words, so I'll try with some examples first. My understanding is that love is something you ...
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8answers
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Understanding Right view

From what I understand as far as the Theravadin tradition goes right view is seeing things as they are instead of through our own filters, conditioning, beliefs etc. So if I have some pain it is ...
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Taking care of our sexual energy

In the Five Mindfulness Trainings as presented in the tradition of Thich Nhat Hanh, the third one - called "True Love" - says: I am committed to learning appropriate ways to take care of my sexual ...
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4answers
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Does buddhism allow for families?

I have studied Buddhism for a few years now, on and off, and this one question has been bugging me for a long time. Please correct me if I am wrong, however, the way that I understand it is that ...
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Choosing a Buddhist partner ain't beneficial to spreading Dhamma?

Recently seeing questions on Buddhist stack exchange community I thought to ask this question. My understanding that we can choose anyone as life partner the way Buddha said all about is kind of ...
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Can someone address this critique?

I found a rather compelling critique on the Internet and would like to ask you to answer this. He probably misunderstood dukkha, however, he is somewhat right on the nihilism aspect of buddhism. In ...
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How does Dating work in Buddhism

What does the Buddha say about dating, in general? This is a fairly open-ended question, and any scriptural references would help. I would have lustful thoughts when I look at a pretty girl (though I ...
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5answers
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Buddhist marry a non-Buddhist

I'm intrigued by this concept. Can a Buddhist marry a person from a faith who believe in a God that created the universe? I've got varying answers from Buddhists, some have advised that religion does ...
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Should person with schizophrenia have children?

I wanted to ask you whether it is ethical for a person with schizophrenia to have biological children. Do any Buddhist traditions teach anything in that regard? When one parent has this illness, the ...
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Where does choice enter into Buddhist practice?

I am curious about what, if anything, gets said, especially those trained a buddhist background. Personally and currently, I am having the understanding that the ability to say 'no' to the influence ...
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3answers
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How to stop comparing oneself with others?

I'm wondering how Buddhism deals with the comparison of oneself with others, and I'm specifically thinking in terms of accomplishments. For example, I have usually had some success in art fields in my ...
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Relationships : What is Love?

Recently i was wondering about Love and these thoughts came to my mind, i want to know if they are correct or not. As to Buddhism all sorts of love is "Attachment". And the is no such thing called a ...
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Romantic love and Buddhism

What do you think of this article about romantic love? I am skeptical about his understanding of upeksha. As I understand it, romantic love does not really exist in Buddhism because the targeted love ...
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How Lord Buddha's Way Make Me Out Of This Depression!

I don't know If I should ask this here or not. But I am depressed enough and not able to find a way to get out of this situation to live life happily as I used to do before. In my office I met a ...
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Ignoring Someone as Wrongful Speech

I am in an odd situation. Someone I know, who was my friend, now seems to have developped feelings towards me. I wish to give her space, but we are in contact electronically and text. She is extremely ...
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A path to another university outside of Buddhism

This post is a revision of Buddhism Or Christ? which already closed. I posted that Buddhism or Christ? question on a Christian forum too, and after quite a response from them, I felt I have some clues....
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Benefits of Producing and Caring for Children

Genetically speaking producing your own children perpetuates your own genes. Buddha spoke at length about the 31 Planes of Existence. What is Buddhism's (not just Theravada) position on having ...
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Where is the most concrete exposition on the Buddhist ethics in the source material?

In the Bible a complex saga of the human experience is elaborated in a multitude of ways, and these nuances make the text hard to crack in a linear reading. However, there exists a very illuminating ...
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Sexual Ethics in Buddhism

I have a couple of questions regarding the Viewpoints of sexuality in Buddhism for lay people. Why is lust seen as being unskillful? Lay-people are lay-people because they don't want to renounce ...
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2answers
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How to prevent self-deception?

I have recently attended my first Vipassana 10-day course. I observe the moral precepts fully, practice diligently and attempt to proceed wisely on the path. I came into contact with Vipassana because ...
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How buddhists see/deal with Gaslighting?

I've had my share of gaslighting and have given it as well. To me there's this sort of limbo situation, where the undefinition is the abuse, where a person has the underlying feeling that something is ...
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Accepting what is

I need some help understanding how the Buddhist view on 'accepting what is' and noticing how craving for it to be different to how it is causes suffering, is different to learned helplessness where ...
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How to find an appropriate sex partner for a sakadagami?

Is it true that sakadagami can have sex that is pure so between a wife and husband. how can one gain the attention of a wise man who intends to marry and upholds The Way of Noble Ones.
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Is the definition of sexual misconduct now obsolete?

DN 31 says: In five ways, young householder, the parents thus ministered to as the East by their children, show their compassion: (i) they restrain them from evil, (ii) they encourage them to do ...
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What is “love” to a lay person?

As a budding Buddhist, one cannot help but investigate day to day phenomena with the magnificent tools made available to us by the Buddha. An interesting thought occurred to me today and prompted me ...
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Safe vs Risky Path

What, if anything, did the Buddha teach about following the most secure path vs venturing out on an unknown but possibly more fullfilling path? To start off, I am very new to Buddhism but am putting ...

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