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I have a no close internet friend who just got stabbed.

Now, seemingly there's nothing more to it than he got in an argument, things were said, and the guy stabbed him. So, my friend doesn't want to involve the police, doesn't want to get any kind of angry revenge toward the perp, he just wants to let it be and carry on doing what he was but with less anger.

Now, for me this seems like an amazing attitude, whether or not he's being hypocritical - which he may not be, it's amazing to have that self control and not even thirst for anything - any kind of sick justice or even self concern.

So, I wondered if there was any way to control my thirsty anger at this turn of events? I don't mean I'm gonna beat the perp up (I don't even know who it was) but yeah, it's wrong to feel anger on someone's behalf, right?

Thanks.

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Without being judgmental what is happening here is:

  • you have a perception of right and wrong
  • you have a perception of what is beneficial and not towards a loved one
  • you have a perception of you friend as a loved one

The interaction of these perceptions are causing grief and pain.

You cannot just get rid of perception at will. The process to get rid of the perception thus riding your self of the pain is Vipassana Meditation.

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  • ok, thanks, that answered my question i think - i was talking about very coarse obstructions which the beginning practice of meditation is designed or whatever to help with, thanks :)
    – user2512
    Apr 15, 2015 at 17:19
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    Good to know that this was helpful.
    – Suminda Sirinath S. Dharmasena
    Apr 15, 2015 at 17:25
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The answer has already been chosen, but I really wanted to provide a personal experience that may help.

Back in my 20s, I was in a Buddhist temple and witnessed a woman getting stabbed and raped. I was able to help her get away, but the angst from that 5 minute event haunted me for years. I would wake up in sweats and even get into fights with abusive men simply because I was still so angry.

What I finally did was go into deep meditation and picture the event as a bubble that would float away. I then pictured myself without that bubble. I (mentally) let it go.

It goes back to what the Buddha first called the Forefold Truths, or the "4" in early language. First, you watch anger, emotions, (suffering) arise but instead of attaching to them, you understand that they are just something that's separate from you. You then use meditation to let them go and when you fully let go, you then have a chance at nirvana or total freedom. Keeping that practice of seeing, understanding and letting go is then the eightfold path.

In essence, being Buddhist is being at peace.

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  • both answers are correct.
    – Yoda Bytes
    Apr 24, 2015 at 17:06

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