Equanimity is described as It refers to the equanimity that arises from the power of observation, the ability to see without being caught by what we see
. The definition can be found here.
If i dig further at look at the concepts as set by Buddha at http://www.insightmeditationcenter.org/books-articles/dhamma-lists/, it confuses and muddles my understanding.
If i attempt to understand not rationalize the description of equanimity, i gather that if an emotion arises or is arising, i observe it. This emotion may be happiness, love, sadness, hatred, dislike, etc. As long as i don't interact or engage the emotion, i am mindful and aware.
Again because i tend to look to examples be it in nature or behavior, i will attempt to describe my understanding.
Example 1
Surrounded by children, in laughter, there is a sense of happiness and innocence. If i simply observe the emotion of happiness, should i not participate in it? Yes, it may be temporary but isn't that being in the present or moment all about?
If i am devoid of emotion and only an observer, am i not practising aversion?
How does this differ to physical interactions?
Example 2
Relationships are strained between 2 or more people. The fact that they have stayed away from one another reduces the strain as it does the thoughts that arise from remembering incidents. Over time, people sympathize as well as empathize. This leads to the belief that should they meet again, they will have better understanding.
Is staying away deliberately considered aversion? If someone had been abused and they stayed away from their abuser, is it aversion?
Is not wanting to think about it aversion?
Is the 'loss' of memory and an understanding on the path of anatta?
Does this 'loss' of memory and thought as well as an understanding of the situation and experience lead to the path of equanimity?