Any authentic sutta or part of sutta from any tradition that gives guidance on what kind of sexual relationship partner to choose?
I'm thinking the Vimalikirti sutra should say something about such layman concerns.
Specifically things like what kind of partner would an ideal layman choose for family purposes if choose at all?
Should one find a companion who already understands the Dharma and is thus highly capable of being a companion and teacher to children?
Or is the proper bodhisattva action to practice the dana paramita by bonding and inspiring someone who lacks the dharma--but is ready to receive it--and thus help to transform their karma as well as the whole universe's (through increasing Dharma quotient in a "lower denominator")?
[The Taoist tradition (which I highly honor) has some insights into this matter and for me is very connected to Buddhism and according to my learning would imply that a cultivated woman choose the latter and a cultivated man choose the former.]