Buddhism has slowly entered my life since the last 25 years. Though born a Hindu in India, I have always been open to practices that would help me answer my fundamental question about the meaning of life and, more specifically, how to attain the end of suffering and final release. I followed many traditions but none satisfied me. Meanwhile Buddhism, specifically Theravada Buddhism, sort of grew into me owing to its very scientific and rational approach to liberation, to Nibbana, sans gods and the like. For the last year or so, I have been intensively doing Samatha Meditation, Anapanasati specifically, and have been putting ~4 hrs on workdays and 6- 10 hours on weekends in sessions of one to one and a half hours. Initially, I went through a lot of physical problems, mainly severe flu-like symptoms, but I persisted and these have thankfully subsided now. At the moment, however, I am feeling very downcast and it appears that I am lost. There seems to be darkness all around, yet I am persisting with my intensive practice. These 'dark nights' make me so despondent sometimes that I feel that I may be having too much of bad karma that is obstructing my growth. My only motivation is Nibbana, nothing else, and I would go to any length to reach it but then something is not allowing me to move forward. Some time back, before the pandemic started, I was planning to go to Myanmar for a long retreat but CoVid- 19 simply poured cold water over my plans.

Could someone guide me in this hour of distress?

  • i feel no hour of darkness, but never meditate... want to swap?
    – user2512
    Commented Aug 4, 2020 at 10:58
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    Hahaha! Nope! That is not a choice for me. Commented Aug 5, 2020 at 6:24

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The first thing I noticed in your question is the ultra long hours you put into meditation.

You might find this advice from Ven. Ajahn Chah useful.

From "The Teachings of Ajahn Chah: A collection of Dhamma Talks":

Q: Is it necessary to sit for very long stretches?

A: No, sitting for hours on end is not necessary. Some people think that the longer you can sit, the wiser you must be. I have seen chickens sit on their nests for days on end! Wisdom comes from being mindful in all postures. Your practice should begin as you awaken in the morning. It should continue until you fall asleep. Don't be concerned about how long you can sit. What is important is only that you keep watchful whether you are working or sitting or going to the bathroom. Each person has his own natural pace. Some of you will die at age fifty, some at age sixty-five, and some at age ninety. So, too, your practice will not be all identical. Don't think or worry about this. Try to be mindful and let things take their natural course. Then your mind will become quieter and quieter in any surroundings. It will becomes till like a clear forest pool. Then all kinds of wonderful and rare animals will come to drink at the pool. You will see clearly the nature of all things (saṅkhārās) in the world. You will see many wonderful and strange things come and go. But you will be still. Problems will arise and you will see through them immediately. This is the happiness of the Buddha.

Regarding your depression, I'm not sure whether what you're going through is a "dark night of the soul" experience. For this, please see this answer and this answer.

From the comments section for this question:

OP: In being mindful during waking hours too, do we have to be mindfully aware of all the activities that come up during the day, physical as well as mental, or is it equally appropriate to bring the attention continually back to breathing as far as possible?

Please see "Chapter Six: Daily Life" by Ven. Yuttadhammo. That should answer your question.

  • Ven. Ajahn Chah is right. We meditate every mind moment. However, the last quote doesn't mean like that because in Visuddhimagga KhandhaNiddesa PaññāCatuka described like 'VipassanāÑāṇa, included Knowledge of Misery (adinava-ñana), is wholesome only' and 'Wholesome has no mental pain (which coming with worry, fear, too much stress, sad, angry, envy, scary, hatred, stinginess)'. We are feeling happy and happier while meditate all meditation. If we feel stress in Vipassanā, we will meditate Samatha for relaxing and keeping wholesome mind.
    – Bonn
    Commented Aug 2, 2020 at 0:12
  • The idea of dark nights of the soul does find mention in many Christian mystics' works and if it actually points towards an impending dawn, I'd be more than happy to bear the present agony. Regarding Ajahn Chah, I've read many of his works, including 'A Still Forest Pool' . I definitely have to learn the art he is hinting at. Commented Aug 2, 2020 at 3:40
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    @Bonn I have removed that quote on adinava-ñana as I do not know enough about it. Thank you for the information.
    – ruben2020
    Commented Aug 2, 2020 at 4:11
  • Channa and many Bhikkhus in Tipitaka suisided themselves because of this, so in 3rd Pātimokkha, the Buddha taught Ānāpānassati instead and in many Suttas the Buddha taught Ānāpānassati before Vipassanā, such as DN22, to let the practitioner meditates Samatha and Vipassanā together switching. The real Ādīnava comes with happiness.
    – Bonn
    Commented Aug 2, 2020 at 5:17
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    I have gone through this advice by Ven. Yuttadhammo. Thanks for going to great lengths to help out. I am obliged dear friend. Commented Aug 2, 2020 at 16:33

I am in your state. I am sick as well. I want to be a monk but I can't.

The difference is I don't feel bad because I can see my effort when looking back to check what I did.

I can say I never sit as much as you, and I can say if I can practice as much as you doing, I am going to be very happy and proud of it surely.☺

I understand the chance to meet Dhamma is extremely difficult, every practitioner doesn't want to miss this chance. However, you are trying and you still not giving up, so don't count your chickens before they hatch. 😉

Samatha is for happiness, Vipassana is for serious considering. Both are helping each other, but Worry is for lost.

Relax. ❤♡♥

  • Thanks @Bonn for the encouragement. Love and Metta. Commented Aug 3, 2020 at 8:37

While sitting meditation is good, it shouldn't be your sole activity of cultivation. Obviously a sick and frail body won't get one very far. You'd need a strong healthy body to take on the task too. So don't forget your daily physical exercise regime. The best ones are outdoor cardios like jogging, biking, hiking, etc. Also try to incorporate some walking meditation to your training, not just sitting meditation. Remember, if you don't take care of your physical body, you'd basically open up the door for Sloth-and-torpor/thīna-middha and Restlessness-and-worry/uddhacca-kukkucca, 2 of the Five Hindrances to invade and hinder your progress.

  • I think, though I have a healthy body, some rigorous exercise daily would be helpful. Thanks friend. Commented Aug 1, 2020 at 18:20

There is lot more benefit from sincerely observing precepts, giving into generosity and tune ones life, while being all around observant, especially on reflection, rather the foolish modern compensation meditations, even in retreats, for householders. Get engaged in services in monasteries and try to fix the issue of gross defilements! To be very straight forward. If physical locked down, good housholder, there might be ways out there but so far my person coild offer such only here with plenty of work and task, done to be with Sila, as kammatthan, all around the Gems, headed toward Nibbana, an allbaround Vipassana and awakening camp...

[Note that this isn't given for trade, exchange, stacks or what ever binds here, but to escape from it]


I guess you are having problems due to discontentment, it's difficult to figure out the particulars because you don't say much about what issues you are having. Here are some Sutta excerpts you might find helpful;

[Kamada:] So hard it is to do, Lord, It's so very hard to do!

[Buddha:] But still they do what's hard to do, Who steady themselves with virtue. For one pursuing homelessness, Content arrives, and with it joy.

[Kamada:] So hard it is to get, Lord, This content of which you speak!

[Buddha:] But still they get what's hard to get, Who delight in a tranquil mind. The mind of those, both day and night, Delights in its development.

[Kamada:] So hard it is to tame, Lord, This mind of which you speak!

[Buddha:] But still they tame what's hard to tame, Who delight in senses at peace. Cutting through mortality's net, The nobles, Kamada, proceed.

[Kamada:] So hard it is to go, Lord, On this path that gets so rough!

[Buddha:] Still nobles, Kamada, proceed On paths both rough and hard to take. Those who are less than noble fall On their heads when the path gets rough. But for nobles the path is smooth — For nobles smooth out what is rough! https://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/sn/sn02/sn02.006.olen.html

At such times, monks, as the mind is sluggish, that is the wrong time to cultivate the enlightenment-factor[1] of tranquillity, the enlightenment-factor of concentration, the enlightenment-factor of equanimity. What is the reason? A sluggish mind is hard to arouse by these factors. [...] "But, monks, when the mind is sluggish, that is the right time to cultivate the enlightenment-factor of investigation-of-states, the enlightenment-factor of energy, the enlightenment-factor of rapture.[2] What is the reason? A sluggish mind is easy to arouse by these factors. https://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/sn/sn46/sn46.053.wlsh.html

“Bhikkhus, possessing three qualities, a bhikkhu is practicing the unmistaken way and has laid the groundwork for the destruction of the taints. What three? Here, a bhikkhu guards the doors of the sense faculties, observes moderation in eating, and is intent on wakefulness.

“And how, bhikkhus, does a bhikkhu guard the doors of the sense faculties? Here, having seen a form with the eye, a bhikkhu does not grasp its marks and features. Since, if he left the eye faculty unrestrained, bad unwholesome states of longing and dejection might invade him, he practices restraint over it; he guards the eye faculty, he undertakes the restraint of the eye faculty. Having heard a sound with the ear … Having smelled an odor with the nose … Having tasted a taste with the tongue … Having felt a tactile object with the body … Having cognized a mental phenomenon with the mind, a bhikkhu does not grasp its marks and features. Since, if he left the mind faculty unrestrained, bad unwholesome states of longing and dejection might invade him, he practices restraint over it; he guards the mind faculty, he undertakes the restraint of the mind faculty. It is in this way that a bhikkhu guards the doors of the sense faculties.

“And how does a bhikkhu observe moderation in eating? Here, reflecting carefully, a bhikkhu consumes food neither for amusement nor for intoxication nor for the sake of physical beauty and attractiveness, but only for the support and maintenance of this body, for avoiding harm, and for assisting the spiritual life, considering: ‘Thus I shall terminate the old feeling and not arouse a new feeling, and I shall be healthy and blameless and dwell at ease.’ It is in this way that a bhikkhu observes moderation in eating.

“And how is a bhikkhu intent on wakefulness? Here, during the day, while walking back and forth and sitting, a bhikkhu purifies his mind of obstructive qualities. In the first watch of the night, while walking back and forth and sitting, he purifies his mind of obstructive qualities. In the middle watch of the night he lies down on the right side in the lion’s posture, with one foot overlapping the other, mindful and clearly comprehending, after noting in his mind the idea of rising. After rising, in the last watch of the night, while walking back and forth and sitting, he purifies his mind of obstructive qualities. It is in this way that a bhikkhu is intent on wakefulness.

“A bhikkhu who possesses these three qualities is practicing the unmistaken way and has laid the groundwork for the destruction of the taints.” https://suttacentral.net/an3.16/en/bodhi

There is the case where a monk remains focused on unattractiveness with regard to the body, percipient of loathsomeness with regard to food, percipient of non-delight with regard to the entire world, (and) focused on inconstancy with regard to all fabrications. The perception of death is well established within him. He dwells in dependence on the five strengths of a learner — strength of conviction, strength of conscience, strength of concern, strength of persistence, & strength of discernment — [...] he attains [...] the immediacy that leads to the ending of the effluents. https://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/an/an04/an04.163.than.html

"Endowed with seven qualities, a monk pursuing mindfulness of breathing will in no long time penetrate the Unprovoked [release]. Which seven?

"He is a person who imposes only a little [on others]: one of few duties & projects, easy to support, easily contented with the requisites of life.

"He is a person who eats only a little food, committed to not indulging his stomach.

"He is a person of only a little sloth, committed to wakefulness.

"He gets to hear at will, easily & without difficulty, talk that is truly sobering & conducive to the opening of awareness: talk on modesty, contentment, seclusion, non-entanglement, arousing persistence, virtue, concentration, discernment, release, and the knowledge & vision of release.

"He lives in the wilderness, in an isolated dwelling place.

"He is a person of much learning, who has retained what he heard, has stored what he has heard. Whatever teachings are admirable in the beginning, admirable in the middle, admirable in the end, that — in their meaning & expression — proclaim the holy life that is entirely complete & pure: those he has listened to often, retained, discussed, accumulated, examined with his mind, and well-penetrated in terms of his views.

"He reflects on the mind as it is released.

"Endowed with these seven qualities, a monk pursuing mindfulness of breathing will in no long time penetrate the Unprovoked."

If you want i can give more info explaining these.

  • What you have suggested seems to be true, I think. The weight of my subconscious expectations with the inevitable discontent may be pulling me down. Letting go might be helpful. Thanks friend. Commented Aug 1, 2020 at 18:26
  • I would advise to add the practice of the four brahmaviharas as well as the contemplation of death, of unattractiveness and to develop other supportive meditations. It will be easier to smooth things out when it gets rough and it doesn't take much time.
    – user8527
    Commented Aug 1, 2020 at 20:40
  • You can check out these notes which are essentially sutta excerpts with little commentary; development of perceptions docs.google.com/document/d/…
    – user8527
    Commented Aug 1, 2020 at 20:48
  • Overcoming the hindrances docs.google.com/document/d/…
    – user8527
    Commented Aug 1, 2020 at 20:49
  • I'll definitely go through these. Thanks a lot. Commented Aug 2, 2020 at 3:22

My only motivation is Nibbana, nothing else

You have the right goal. This Dhamma expounded by the Buddha is only for that goal and that goal only. If one seeks this Dhamma for any other reason, for debate, for advancement of intellect, etc., they have grabbed a great snake from the tail or the body and therefore will suffer death or deadly pain. MN22

The question you should ask yourself is, "Am I in the Path to Nibbana"? From your symptoms it sounds like you have taken a different path than the Path Leading to the Cessation of Suffering

In Buddha's dispensation, Right Concentration is the concentration that is equipped with seven factors - Right View, Right Thought, Right Speech, Right Action, Right Livelihood, Right Effort and Right Mindfulness. MN117

Today the Buddhist meditations have been lost to the world and instead have been replaced with breathing concentration that doesn't lead to Right Liberation.

Buddhist meditations are about contemplating on Dhamma, reflecting on your own self to see the Dhamma within you. Then you see the what the Buddha meant through your own experiences. And what you realize is a link in the dependent origination through your own experience.

The start of the Noble Eight Fold Path is by developing the (the Noble) Right View. For that, you have to contemplate on Suffering, the Origin of Suffering, the Cessation of Suffering and you will be back again in the Noble Eight Fold Path as the path leading to the cessation of suffering.

When you practice this way, what you gain is the unwavering Faith (saddha) in the Buddha. He knows within that this Noble Eight Fold Path is the Right Path and no matter what others say you are determined to Develop this Path. The Noble Eight Fold Path is to be developed. There are Four Developments in the Noble Eight Fold Path. Namely Development of Body, Development of Virtue, Development of Mind, and Development of Wisdom.

That is the Path you need to take to attain Nibbana. For a person taking this Path, he is never lost; never has dark times because he is always with the Buddha, Dhamma and the Noble Sangha.

Listen to this great explanation of the Noble Eight Fold Path and try the meditation exactly as explained. See if that makes a difference for your current situation.

With Metta

  • Thanks a lot @ahtisarw. I'm sorry for seeing your suggestion a little late, but sure I'll try to understand my problem along the lines you have suggested. It does seem that something needs to be corrected. Thanks again. Commented Aug 10, 2020 at 19:42

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