Can Buddhism be interpreted as a quest for the young?
I see it as guidelines for staying out of trouble, maybe helping out.
I used to think that the beauty of Buddhism laid within the absence of rules and restrictions.
What do or did you think that Buddhism is? What belief, what practice, what doctrine, what school/tradition? That's not evident.
That you won’t be condemned for foing what you think is right.
I think Buddhist doctrine is that each being inherits their own kamma.
For example, if you marry then you become "married" -- not "condemned".
That there is more to see than just “here” and now.
I used to think that too about Buddhism, and I didn't understand it.
But seeing it as a quest also makes me sad that if it doesn’t make sense to my senses and comprehension anymore.
I mentioned previously it might be the opposite of a quest -- perhaps it's how to stop questing.
Doubly so if "questing" implies a quest for something fictional (or impermanent, unsatisfactory).
I don't know but you give me the impression of being quite confused. Are you feeding your mind on an exclusive diet of pop songs at the moment?
I find it helps to consider -- "what is virtuous? what is good behaviour?"
And helpful to meet different people -- who are mostly-all adults now but otherwise of all ages, including older and younger.
I’m the kind of person who cannot obey as wanted blindly, there must always be a reason when it comes to rules rather than spirit.
I don't remember what tradition this is from (not Buddhist) but I read once that (I paraphrase), "Man is inclined to worship anything -- God; a woman; a child; gold; ...".
Buddhist doctrine maybe starts with something along the lines of, "Don't tell lies, be kind to people."
Or "All tremble at violence; all fear death. Putting oneself in the place of another, one should not kill nor cause another to kill."
I see this as axiomatic (and agreeable). And doctrine like the Kalama sutta imply that Buddhism is meant to be (or, at a minimum, to include) good common sense.
I don’t really stay if this is what is required of me. I don’t need rules, I need companionship, wherever they are or are not.
That's perhaps a psychological need which Buddhism recognises.
Upaddha Sutta: Half (SN 45.2)
As he was sitting there, Ven. Ananda said to the Blessed One, "This is half of the holy life, lord: admirable friendship, admirable companionship, admirable camaraderie."
"Don't say that, Ananda. Don't say that. Admirable friendship, admirable companionship, admirable camaraderie is actually the whole of the holy life. When a monk has admirable people as friends, companions, & comrades, he can be expected to develop & pursue the noble eightfold path.
As AN 8.54 points out, this means not only associating with good people, but also learning from them and emulating their good qualities.
But I’m 35 this year and already I fear the setting sun.
We're warned that "self-views" are an occasion for suffering to arise.
I wish I could explain that, it (together with the noble truths) is one of the more helpful bits of Buddhist doctrine, and apparently difficult to really understand. There are a lot of questions and answers more-or-less related to that on this site.
I know that I too will need a house of my own, made of rules and rituals and security.
Again, I don't know what you think Buddhism is.
According to the suttas, the first three fetters abandoned on the way to liberation are:
- belief in a self (Pali: sakkāya-diṭṭhi)
- doubt or uncertainty (vicikicchā)
- attachment to rites and rituals (sīlabbata-parāmāsa)
See also "house-builder".
How can I say anything against that, though I can’t muzzle my dread?
Read or listen to the doctrine? Talk with a teacher or a good friend?
I am beginning to understand why older people don’t change much, though I wish I can be their gentle mare.
Um, yeah, I'm not sure that's a good generalisation either.
About a gentle mare if that's your wish, another thing I read once (though again not Buddhist), "To have a friend, you have to be one." There are a lot of older people about.