thank you for reading this.
my mother was born in a very large family. there were 10 girls, and 7 boys. There have always been feuds among the girls. Every holiday season was a mine field of whom was speaking to whom. Now they are older, but the feuds continue. My mother is now 85, her sister (who is my god-mother and whom I love very much) is near to 90. Currently my mother and god-mother are no longer speaking. I am "forced" not to have contact with my god-mother out of deference to my mother. There are others whom I cannot see for the same reason.
I love all of them and suffer their absence. I know they will someday die (as will I), I would like to enjoy the remaining years.
is there a way to see light in this darkness ? Is there something I can do ?
thank you for your help, I am humbled by your collective generosity towards the struggles of strangers.
in answer to the answer from Yeshe Tenley, the question of force.
thank you for pointing to it. When I say I was "forced" I mean that I was pressured when I tried to not do this.
I tried initially to ignore my mother's desire to have me on her side/team in the feud and I ignored it. When she became more aggressive and threatened me, I ignored it and continued to see my god-mother. My mother's response was to slander my god-mother and to cost her relationships with her other siblings and other members of the family. Several people whom my god-mother supported in the darkest days of their lives (through cancer treatments, the loss of children, and many other troubles) were told lies by my mother and believed them.
This was done to punish me. My mother knew she could not take anything from me she had not already taken, but she knew it would hurt me if she hurt others. The "force" came from this, it was extortion/blackmail. The only thing I could do is see neither of them for many years.
I have a sense that the time to resolve this is now, otherwise mortality will close the doors. I am unsure there is a solution.