A friend asked this mind-bending question on social media:
when you’re talking to yourself in your head (or out loud) do you refer to yourself as we, I, you, or they/she/he/other pronoun?
This got me thinking that the difference between addressing myself as "I" and "you" seems trivial but really has some implications when it comes to ego, self, non-self and letting go.
So I'm wondering if anyone has any opinions on whether the Dhamma implies we should "talk to ourselves" in certain ways?
E.g. Should I tell myself
I forgive that person, I will follow the eight-fold path, I will meditate for 20 minutes
You forgive that person, you will follow the eight-fold path, you will meditate for 20 minutes
Alternately, do you think we should really try to use the third-person for addressing ourselves? I know that some Buddhists like to say things like "the body" rather than "your body" or "my body", but it seems like saying "Jer will meditate for 20 minutes" is too weird, but if that's the answer you think is right I'm interested in your thinking too :)
Here's an example answer that shows what I am asking with this question, but I don't know if it's very wise or not, so obviously still looking for perspectives of others.
When I address myself in the first person, I implicitly emphasize my identity, and stay wrapped up in subjectivity.
When I address myself in the second person, I confess that my consciousness is separate from my identity, I gain a more objective position in relation to my thoughts, feelings and experiences.