"Having heard that suffering comes from love, he rejected and went to the gambler..."
Gotama the contemplative said to me, 'Householder, your faculties are not those of one who is steady in his own mind. There is an aberration in your faculties.'
"When this was said, I said to him, 'Lord, how could there not be an aberration in my faculties? My dear & beloved little son, my only child, has died. Because of his death, I have no desire to work or to eat. I keep going to the cemetery and crying out, "Where have you gone, my only little child? Where have you gone, my only little child?"'
"'That's the way it is, householder. That's the way it is — for sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress, & despair are born from one who is dear, come springing from one who is dear.'
"'But, lord, who would ever think that sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress, & despair are born from one who is dear, come springing from one who is dear? Happiness & joy are born from one who is dear, come springing from one who is dear.' So, not delighting in the words of Gotama the contemplative, rejecting them, I got up from my seat and left."
"That's the way it is, householder [said the gamblers]. That's the way it is. Happiness & joy are born from one who is dear, come springing from one who is dear."
So the householder left, thinking, "I agree with the gamblers."
Piyajatika Sutta: From One Who Is Dear
Piya or straight tanha are words for love. To the contrary, Mettā means Goodwill
When loving/desiring someone/something, what if not just form, sound, smell, taste, touch, your thought about it, do you love? And what is in regard of love not just you and yours, the thing or person? Ones just loves, desires sensuality what or who might provide and providing will have an end.
It's not for a bad, but for a good to love and desire to get free of desire, to love teachings, peoples way to help, admirable friends, to have strong affection for the teacher and the teaching. Actualy strong love for if, for unbinding, is very needed.
And how to get ride of desire for sensuality (kama-chanda)?
Denourishing of Sensual Desire
[Note: This is a gift of Dhamma, not meant for commercial use or other lower wordily gains by ways of exchange or trade]