I am curious about how to think about the four immeasurable minds in a practical way, please help me make sense of them (see detailed question below)
Background
In the book Teachings on Love by Thich Nhat Hanh he translates Mudita as Joy rather than Sympathetic Joy and explains that while other commentators have translated as Sympathetic Joy he prefers Joy because "Joy is for everyone"
This got me thinking that it may be practical to see two sides of the immeasurables (another example would be self-compassion)
My thinking so far
Below is how i like to think of the four immeasurables
Metta:
- Self-love
- Loving kindness towards others
Karuna:
- Self-compassion
- Compassion for others
Mudita:
- Joy
- Sympathetic joy
Upeksha:
- Peace/Equanimity
- Non-discrimination - between self and others, between good and bad
This way of thinking about them splits each of the first (metta, karuna, mudita) three into two parts, one for one-self and one for everyone else
In Buddhism we don't want to make a harsh distinction between self and others but from a practical point of view this can (for example) help us to remember to have self-compassion. One downside is that there is a larger risk of not seeing our suffering as the suffering of others and the suffering of others as our own
The last (upeksha) i have divided into two parts where the first is inner peace for oneself and the other is non-discrimination
Question
Is this (above) a practical way to think about the four immeasurables? (Practical in the sense of getting closer to living in line with them). Are there other ways to think about them that you can recommend and that can help us achieve living with them on a daily basis? (Please provide references to books or other materials if you can)
Grateful for help and with kind regards, Tord