I think this question is a duplicate of:
"Duplicate" means that the answers to those questions should answer your question.
we have to lie, we will lie to wife, we will lie in the working place, we will lie to our mother father
... but I'm not sure that's true. If you read the definitions of Right Speech on Access to Insight, it includes,
He speaks in season, speaks what is factual, what is in accordance with the goal ...
If you feel the need to lie about something (e.g. your behaviour) then perhaps you should change your behaviour instead of lying about it. Therefore "not lying" becomes a "training rule".
The subject is difficult to talk about, though, because you didn't describe examples of the various lies, which you say we have to lie about to almost everyone.
Lastly, about the phrase you quoted.
The first bit of it, i.e...
... is presumably clear enough.
So if you have a question about the quoted phrase, then maybe the question is about the next bit:
- Sometimes the use of words can make something seem acceptable, when it could also have been said very differently and be totally unacceptable.
- This would not be a lie, but it would be a distortion of fact.
The second sentence isn't clear to me: it seems to me that a "distortion of fact" maybe is a lie by definition. See also e.g. Sankha's answer here for a more precise Theravada definition of lying.
Because I clearly don't understand the second sentence, I also don't understand the first:
- The first might be talking about telling the truth in an acceptable way, e.g. about whether the truth is spoken gently and at the right time (which is acceptable) or harshly and at the wrong time (which is less easily accepted)
- But it might also be talking about the opposite situations, "sugar-coating" a lie to make it seem acceptable, e.g. "I'll just tell my boss this little white lie: everyone else lies like this and I have to lie too."