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What does Buddhism say about how to manage other people's anger? Does Buddhism suggest any specific attitude when we are facing angry people, especially when they are unable to control their anger and/or unaware of their anger?

Intuitively I try for example to listen to the person, understand him/her and remain calm myself as much as possible.

What kind of recommendations or advice does Buddhism offer to help us in such situations?

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A very apt verse in the case of anger is this one from Dhammapada - Na Hi Verena Verani - Hatred is never appeased by Hatred. It is appeased only by loving kindness.

Here is the Dhamma talk by Ven. Yuttadhammo on that particular verse.

Although there are certain differences in anger and hatred, the basic approach will be the same - Remain equanimous by knowing Anicca, Dukkha and Anatta at the level of your body and then based on your sensations cultivate Loving Kindness towards the person.

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Stop focusing on "other people" and focus on the experience. Focus on what causes anger to arise in the mind.

ex: If someone scolds at you, it's just sound hitting the ears. What's wrong with sound hitting the ears? Why you need to get so upset about it?

Anger arises due to ignorance. Ignorance personifies the experiences caused by bad Karma. That leads to aversion.

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you may want to take a look at this list of suttas and Dhammapada verses dealing with anger, hatred, aggression and hostility

just one example from Theragatha Brahma­datta 6.12

One who gets angry at an angry person
Just makes things worse.
One who doesn’t get angry at an angry person
Wins a battle hard to win.

When you know that the other is angry,
You act for the good of both
Yourself and the other,
If you are mindful, and stay calm.

only that these are not words attributed to the Buddha

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